As women, it’s so easy for us to feel hurt by the actions or apathy of someone you love – be it your boyfriend, spouse, child, boss or friend. This is especially so when they haven’t met our expectations.
Automatically we mentally shift gears and start to collect evidence to prove our theory. As we do this, the Universe also accommodates our new mission – show evidence to match these new beliefs while also matching the beliefs of the person who perpetrated the feelings of hurt upon us.
And here is where it gets all crazy! Your perpetrator may be merrily living their life, blissfully unaware of our thoughts and emotional reactions. And what do we do?
We feel injustice and create havoc, just to be “correct” again, and have the upper hand.
This reaction may create more distance if your partner is looking at your behavior and cannot see the possible reasons to got you to where you are. Or they may look beyond it to see the pattern that created the trigger, and together you have a stronger, better, more loving relationship because of it.
Let’s make that explanation more visual!
So, for instance: You always spend time together daily, but one day you notice him talking to someone else. You feel like you are not top priority. You leave each other abruptly to take care of your daily responsibilities. This new train of thought begins to consume your mind: I don’t like being ignored. How dare he act in that manner?
You decide to avoid him the next day. You expected him to call you, but he didn’t.
You call the next day and the number rang out! Now you are raging mad! Your mind continues your train of thought….with vengeance.
Here is what might have happened to fit your new reality: Your partner may have gotten an unexpected role to fill out of town for the office, (or he may confirm your fearful thinking) and his phone broke (this is the Universe mirroring a communication break-down between both of you).
This situation matches your fears and makes him unavailable.
So, what do you do, if you are in the initial space where everything fell apart and you are not sure of yourself and the status of your relationship?
First, I’d suggest that you do some form of physical self-care to soothe your body, mind and soul. Some ideas are: visit the spa, salon, attend yoga classes, go for a swim, take a long soak in the bath-tub, listen (and dance) to your favorite music, and read or meditate – if you can! This shifts the heaviness in your body, mind and heart out of your system.
Then, proceed to shift your thinking! Journal about everything that runs through your head. You can write about your current feelings, and what you would prefer. Realize that the Universe is trying to communicate something to you! You won’t have experienced this situation if there was some nugget of wisdom in it for you. What is the blessing in disguise? Are you judgmental and controlling or is it that the person isn’t quite the right fit for you? What can you do to show up as a better version of yourself?
And the last tip? Communicate clearly! This whole episode can just be a form of smoke and mirrors. Don’ t take it personally! It was created to match your fears as well as show you how to be a better version of you. This also goes for your partner, though your lessons may be at opposite ends of the spectrum!
Communicate your needs and create a habit of addressing your feelings so that they don’t become toxic. This is where your work lies.
Know that everything is always, always working out for your Highest Good. Because….the Universe synchronizes every single detail perfectly to fit our vibrational frequency and the life lessons that we all are supposed to get.
Mindfulness is coming up again. Why so often? Because we keep shifting our foundation and we need to honor where we are.
Everyday is a step closer to where we intend to be.
There is one other thing. Fun and laughter is necessary to make this a “light” (in every sense of the word) journey. A missing link for some of us, no doubt. And a great reminder for me.
Today, I’ve asked “How can I add more “fun” to all of what I am doing? It has been less than four hours since I asked the Universe for that. And I’m rolling with laughter from so many lovely souls who showed up to make this day awesome!
So trust that everything is always available. We just need to ask (and receive)!
Have an awesome day everyone! Over and out!
TRUST! This has been the theme for me this week. And I’m sure many of you can attest to this. I’ve been a seasoned professional at trusting the Universe. However, in accepting constant change for a year – I’ve managed to shift my energy to another level. Now, everything seems new and my logical mind wants a say in all of this. It wants to do the work. It wants to make sense of all these rapid changes.
However, I’m seeing the Universe is telling me this, showing me, reminding me constantly – in each waking moment and in my dreams. I don’t need to figure it out. I need to trust. I don’t need to connect the dots. Just trust, trust, trust!
Trust! When nothing makes sense – because the Universe always works with Divine Order. And, no matter how much we exercise our free will, like a computer genius, the Universe knows how to self-correct its course to give us the best possible outcome to our desires.
There are just four things we need to do/be:
- Get clear on what we want (and it’s okay to let that be a work in progress)
- Trust the process (that’s the Universe’s work to figure stuff out)
- Follow our intuition. That is, take inspired action
- And be open to receiving
How is trust showing up for you?
Do you always look for what’s wrong?…Waiting for the shoe (or other shoe) to drop? Unable to take compliments, kind gestures from people – believing that there is some ulterior motive behind their niceness?
Well if you think that way, the Universe is innately designed to always prove you right! You get some more of that!
I love it when Mahatma Ghandi says “Be the change you want to see in the world!”
Getting readings are no different! Readings – intuitive, astrological, medical readings, etc – are always designed to put you on the pathway to healing! It may point out a blockage and simultaneously point you in the direction of healing it. It’s a matter of what you focus on! (And if you need further clarity on what you get – it’s your duty to ask!) However, your openness and receptivity to the goodness and the blessings in your life is what makes these tools insightful! These readings are meant to be in insight of an outcome of your current patterns and a window to your soul.
What was your intention for asking to be seen what is going on, behind the scenes in your life, anyway?
Do you want someone to magically fix it all and make everything go away? In case you didn’t realize it love, that is a grand form of giving your power away!
Intuitives show you the path, Healers gives you the experience of what it’s like if you choose to stay on the path, Coaches gives you the tools to stay on the path. But nobody can make you walk your path. Only you! You’ve always had this power all along.
I am in a unique position to offer intuition, healing and coaching. I offer intuition to the person who wishes clarity, healing to the persons who are receptive to the experience and coaching for the person who wants to integrate a more fulfilling lifestyle with the insights that he/she has received.
Specifically I’m an Intuitive Mindset Coach. I rewire the mind into accessing and working with your Divine Blueprint. I help you to let go of old programming that no longer serves you (the mindset work)! I hold a space energetically for you to feel supported along your journey. I show you how to step into your power by showing you how to honor your own intuition, and take guided action into achieving the life you were meant to live.
So today, take decisive action towards the path of fulfilling your dreams! And if you wish to have mentors to propel your journey – reach out to the folks (me or anyone else in the industry) who you resonate with!
Here’s to wishing you a wonderful, fulfilling life!
I’ve been reflecting on the choices I’ve made to grow and expand over the years.
I’ve been in all sorts of places – sitting on the fence, unsure of what action to take…and taking a quantum leap – completely out of my comfort zone! I could feel my stomach do somersaults with these kinds of decisions.
And I’ve toned down those leaps into making decisions that stretched me into a better version of me without knocking down all my belief systems simultaneously.
I’ve made decisions because everyone said it is the next logical step (I’ve decided that these kinds of decisions are no longer a part of my life) and I’ve made decisions that I was in total alignment with. I knew without a doubt that THIS IS IT!
After experiencing the whole spectrum of feelings when making decisions, I’ve decided that those “this-is-it” decisions and those decisions that feel like it’s something I should do but it’s a little stretch out of comfort zone are the ones I should aim for.
Here is a great way to asses where you are with all of this: When it comes to spending your money, what sort of decisions do you make? What are your beliefs as you pay for a product or service?
As always I’d love to hear from you! Easier to reach me via WordPress or Facebook.
I get much of my inspiration when I’m in the kitchen and it has nothing to do with food. Or does it?
As I was getting anxious this morning that it seems that my pressure pot was taking longer than normal to blow its whistle, Divine Intelligence (DI) intervened.
DI: Is there anything that you can do to make the pressure pot whistle?
DI: So you see Kavita, if you could just focus on washing the dishes while the time builds momentum for it to reach the tipping point, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process. It is always advisable that you spend the time to move into alignment with the tipping point, then everything falls into place. One cannot complete the picture without the other. Yes?
Me: Got Yah! (And so I shifted my focus to do my part)
…And I was inspired to share this lesson with you!
Hoped you enjoyed it!
Hey there loves,
What an inspiration and blessing this weekend has brought! I’m sure many of you were either super charged by the Full Moon’s energy or pretty restless – depending on where you are in your journey.
For me I got much clearer on what I wanted! Not by wanting it but by experiencing it and realizing that was what I wanted!
I felt that Goldilocks effect – when she got into Baby Bear’s bed and it felt it was”just right”!
Yesterday I discovered what it felt like to not only have like-minded people in my inner circle but also in my outer circle. That was alignment! And the funny thing about it was that I was acutely aware that every single one of my relationships were aligned! I was right where I needed to be!
Now what did I do differently that attracted this change? Well for starters I had a pretty crazy week. This time however, I didn’t let the drama of sickness pull me down. I knew it was temporary. I saw beyond it. I didn’t push forward. I allowed my self to flow gracefully as I dropped my routines and just be.
I know my routines are necessary but they won’t work for the state of mind (and affairs) that I had showing up in my life, in this moment. Here is the kicker – I had already made peace with that! It was already non-issue!
I was also able to integrate other fragments of myself that I was not aware that I was neglecting until I stepped into it. For instance, I loved my tech life and I wasn’t expressing that side of me as much as I should. Then as I connected with a soul sister she was able to trigger this for me. I’m supper grateful for awareness and this growth.
Now I’m off to explore new pastures! What were your insights this weekend?
Be mindful. Be in the moment. You have heard this sentiment more than you care to admit.
What does it really mean? Well, I’m sure we all have gleaned various meanings from it. And those meanings reflect an aspect of the truth. Your definition may change over time as you grow and expand your consciousness in this time and space.
So the question really is, what does mindfulness mean to you today? Now, in this moment? (Ha! the irony)
What is showing up for me is the value, blessings and sacredness in each moment. I get to appreciative of the power of a smile, a hug, a kiss. The value of sickness and the value of health. The human connection, this human experience.
As souls, we are everything, all the time. As humans the experience is filtered and it seems singular as we gaze into paying attention to various segments in our lives. We think of balance, harmony and the endless quest for bliss.
As souls we have everything we need. We are enough.
As humans we are like a door swinging on skewed hinges, unable to see beyond (the door).
You never really allow others to have faith in you, if you don’t have faith in yourself. Don’t get me wrong – they can and they will have faith in you. But if you don’t see that for yourself then even if they brought the moon and hung it in your backyard, you won’t be able to see it.
So my loves, look around you. Who are the ones that spend the time to inspire you, love you and nudge you in the right direction? That is also an aspect of you! Be mindful, be receptive and have faith in you! Then you can also be a light in their lives and we can all light up the world, together – this is how we can make it a better place!
May you be mindful as you read this, may your faith in yourself be restored and may you reach out and show gratitude for all the wonderful people in your life! Then just see what the Universe has in store of you as you open your mind, heart and soul in this way.💕
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I saw a job offer today. It was something I could do it in an instant. The person hiring was in a similar industry and was awesome at what he/she did. If I did this it, would be for the pure pleasure of getting things done.
Immediately another mail came it. The subject line was the first thing I saw. “Better things are coming” I knew it was a sign. Instead, I began to rationalize. “There is no harm in doing it (the job).” Instantly, my Aries personality kicked in. “Why not?”
I decided to draft my e-mail.
Before I could hit send, I got a power outage.
Then my little one turned everything off by swiftly pressing the power button on my UPS.
“Ok, I’m not doing it.” I declared. It would be nice to have electricity again! Then I proceeded to feed the baby. Click. The power returned.
Lesson? Not because you can do something means you should do it. Source was making sure I don’t feed my ego. Allowing me to use my time for what really matters. Sharing my unique gifts with the world.
And maybe, just maybe this happened to also to inspire you (because I did set the intent to write something inspirational today.)
You know when you pay attention.
Now I know why my first major spiritual lesson, at 16 years old, was detachment!
The conditions that you are facing is just showing you the result of your point of attraction. That was based on the past. And you can change it. As Lousie Hay states, change your thoughts, change your life!
I do believe change is good, no matter how ugly it seems. It all works out for your greatest good. Look on the bright side, at least you are no longer stuck. You are moving. Be willing to see where it takes you. Enjoy the adventure!
And if you really trust the process, you will be detached from the outcome.
….And this is where the magic happens!
Expect miracles 😀
Love and blessings,
How do you feel as you read this post?
Where is your point of attraction?
What changes are you embracing?
Are you attached to the outcome?
What miracles are happening in your life?